Career confusions of Pakistani teenagers
by Khoula Qadeer Butt
Henry David Thoreau, An American author, journalist once said, “Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined.” What I don’t understand is that how can be the dreams of half of Pakistan’s youth point towards being an engineer or a doctor when they grow up? Don’t believe me? Ask a child who merely just started talking what he wants to be and so very innocently he or she will say he/she wants to be a doctor or an engineer and if not this, a teacher or a pilot. Everyone knows that this little child does not even know what he/she is saying and mostly he/she cannot even pronounce the word correctly but he/she says it. The next question that arises in my head is,”Is this the dream of the child to become a doctor or is it the dream of child’s parents to see him or her as a doctor or engineer or pilot?”, the answer being very obvious.
So the child grows up and studies hard to achieve the dream of parents, if he or she never questions it and becomes what he or she was supposed to be then all is good. The complications begin when the child is not a child anymore and is well informed of various options he or she can choose for the life ahead. It’s amusing that when he was going to become a doctor or engineer, nothing else mattered, and now when he wants to be a journalist or a photographer even the wishes and views of his great grandfather and his aunts affect the child’s dream. Everyone has a little “advice” here and there to scare the child, or as they put it, the little advice to point him to the right direction.
There is a doubt in my head when they talk about “the right direction”. I believe the right direction to follow would be to achieve the goals of the child ratherthe goals of the family or ancestors of the family who wanted doctors in their family. Assuming that, the innocent becomes a doctor by hook or crook and he is not best at what he does, years later we will see that the same parents, uncles and aunts once “advising” would be the ones ridiculing and mocking the ability of a man or woman, who at that moment would have no answer and only regrets in his heart over the loss of the one chance he got to make his life and he did not.
When we are young there is one pressure that leads us to regret, commonly known as peer pressure. The one I am talking about also resulting in remorse, should be called, what? Parent pressure or Family pressure?
“This is Pakistan not America, you cannot always do what you want to do”, “You have to move in the society to live”, “Some things just can’t be changed”, very commonly heard sayings, tell me if you disagree? At a point we are also told, you are the generation that can make a difference, you should know that the future of Pakistan is in your hands and to make a difference you have to bring a change. When talked about this change, the dialogues mentioned earlier start again.
“Why in America everyone can do as they please?”
“Why if the society is lost? You have to be the one with chains too rather than the one unraveling the unsolved issues?”
“Nothing is impossible is a saying everyone believes in then why ‘some things can’t be changed’? ”
As Albert Einstein said, “Three rules of work: Out of clutter find simplicity; From discord find harmony; In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.”
It seems as if our elders, although wanting the change, do not want us to bring the change, hence, we are told to be like our uncle’s son or daughter in order to have a name. Not everyone is born to become a doctor or an engineer – a journalist, social scientist, artist, writer or a photographer can also bring a change – a revolution that is much needed in this country. The future of this country is in our hands and as Eleanor Roosevelt said, “The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.“










